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PARENTING IS A CONSTANT, ONGOING SELF ASSESSMENT ON PURPOSE

Arlene EMBOLA

As I look at these four young women I help Jon raise...
I do not teach them to hate.
I do not strangle their voices.
I do not love them more or less as they do or don't do.
I do rebuke.
I do correct.
I do discipline, soon to be over; with our last daughter a senior in high school!
In adulting, their obedience or disobedience will be the Disciplinarian. No doubt, the training continues as they adult, until marriage, I am supposing...
Children make you look at yourself, your surroundings, your lifestyle, your works... your whole being! Every aspect of who you are, perceive yourself to be is seen in their choices, decisions, interests, actions and reactions.
As a parent, I see my children's lives as an opportunity to be greater. Always. Every moment.
I demand the greater of me and those around me. JUST YOU, no one else. The SELF is so important to me and should never be harmed as it is critical we bloom as God intended.
Be warned... as I assess and form judgments, on SELF or OTHER Selves, I do sledgehammer hardened world crusts and overlays!
Lol! The MOTIVE?
God knows, and there is never a reason to harm.
Cold water in the face? Yes. A slap to provide escape of a captured breath? Yes. A cuss word to unearth self-righteousness? YES!!!
You will never criticize me more than I do myself. One thing different is I do not condemn myself when I find a fault as some do me.
The other thing is some discount me as an expert. I am EXPERT in my field and professional experiences. Many don't know what I know, as I don't know what they know about what they do. I do know I am here with knowledge beyond me.
Why a parenting blog topic in this forum?
I do much parenting as I help people unplug and grow from a very fragile, unsure state and nurturing them through an almost childlike discovery of a SELF that was very untapped, even as the self always whispered of its existence.
I, as with parenting my own children, empower YOU to BE YOU.
I love every moment of my life raising our daughters and I live every moment assisting a person to find their OWN SELF. I AM A HAPPILY COMPLEX WOMAN. I DO NOT FIT A NEAT BOX.
Love me or leave me...
I am here for whosoever God leads my way. Hair, skin and body matters. They are fast becoming my foster children!
Committing to a greater call, chosen to find the greater self in people who are indeed children of the God I serve.
We don't miss His voice.
My Self Assessment in this hour teaches me, people respond to me according to their faith, humility, and fragility:
ENEMY, FOE or FRIEND.
Protecting my children, protecting people and protecting the skin-hair- and-body to grow greater has taught me to trust original design.
You are husbandman to more than physical children.
In short, HUSBANDRY is our true assignment; not child-rearing.
WHERE ARE YOU WHEN YOU SELF ASSESS? I AM HAPPY.
IF YOU ARE NOT HAPPY, START HUSBANDING YOUR SKIN, HAIR AND BODY.
YOU WILL BE AMAZED.
I love motherhood and I know it is only how I husband what has been given me, be it children or things.
Do well!

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